Parents are overambitious when it comes to children.
Firstly they start running for treatment of infertility even though the partners have been together for very less time as per the medical norms to call it infertility.
When the lady conceives they are overenthusiastic about having a male baby and ready for female feticide.
After the birth they want the child to be a superman therefore want to leave no stone unturned for that.
They try to interfere with the normal development. For example they try to toilet train the little baby by taking him to sink to pass urine where
as the actual age for toilet training is two years. They make the baby to sit with support as early as three months whereas actual age of sitting with support is 6 months..
whenever someone visits parents very enthusiastically ask the little baby to say bye to visitors whereas the actual age to say bye is 9 months.
They want to introduce walker prematurely. They force the children as young as 18 months to the school . Actually the age for mature grasp , holding the pencil and scribbling , making a line , vertical stroke and circle is all much later, making a triangle is learnt at 5yrs of age.
At all ages children are victims of parental anxiety , anger & foul language for not coming first.
In summer vacations forcing them to join hobbey classes weather the like it or not.Parents keep the time table of children so tight that there is no opportunity for exploring creativity , self learning , learning from environment , grandparents or anything they like.
Throughout childhood they are grilled towards a career oriented path chosen by parents ,running for tutions rather than enjoying the school life Admission into professional college by hook or crook is the sole aim.
parents mostly have an authoritarian approach "finish this milk before you step out ,I will see how you dare do this " if not this approach of bribe is there. "no tv for you if you do not come first.
punishment rather than logic " just be locked in the bathroom till you say sorry. Projecting father as terror "ok let your father come he will slap you tight " Taunts " money doesn't grow on trees , how dare you waste money"
In these trying times of lockdown ,parents are most anxious about syllabus completion , online classes.
So much so that some parents are on anti anxiety medicines.
All parents always wish the best for their children but unknowingly they harm children's personality development by these unintentional mistakes.
Firstly they start running for treatment of infertility even though the partners have been together for very less time as per the medical norms to call it infertility.
When the lady conceives they are overenthusiastic about having a male baby and ready for female feticide.
After the birth they want the child to be a superman therefore want to leave no stone unturned for that.
They try to interfere with the normal development. For example they try to toilet train the little baby by taking him to sink to pass urine where
as the actual age for toilet training is two years. They make the baby to sit with support as early as three months whereas actual age of sitting with support is 6 months..
whenever someone visits parents very enthusiastically ask the little baby to say bye to visitors whereas the actual age to say bye is 9 months.
They want to introduce walker prematurely. They force the children as young as 18 months to the school . Actually the age for mature grasp , holding the pencil and scribbling , making a line , vertical stroke and circle is all much later, making a triangle is learnt at 5yrs of age.
At all ages children are victims of parental anxiety , anger & foul language for not coming first.
In summer vacations forcing them to join hobbey classes weather the like it or not.Parents keep the time table of children so tight that there is no opportunity for exploring creativity , self learning , learning from environment , grandparents or anything they like.
Throughout childhood they are grilled towards a career oriented path chosen by parents ,running for tutions rather than enjoying the school life Admission into professional college by hook or crook is the sole aim.
parents mostly have an authoritarian approach "finish this milk before you step out ,I will see how you dare do this " if not this approach of bribe is there. "no tv for you if you do not come first.
punishment rather than logic " just be locked in the bathroom till you say sorry. Projecting father as terror "ok let your father come he will slap you tight " Taunts " money doesn't grow on trees , how dare you waste money"
In these trying times of lockdown ,parents are most anxious about syllabus completion , online classes.
So much so that some parents are on anti anxiety medicines.
All parents always wish the best for their children but unknowingly they harm children's personality development by these unintentional mistakes.
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